For Better or For Worse

Remember the vows when you get married. Sometimes tragedy happens out of our expectation. As mentioned before, we become single parents by chance or by choice. But when we reconsider the divorce, it may not be a tragedy. I love the idea of Circle of Concern VS Circle of Influence (by Stephen Covey in His 7 Habits book??). I will enjoy & multiply my joy when I extend my Circle of Influence (the Sphere under my control). I can count my blessings & cherish a grateful hearts for all I have - my lovely daughters who support me day by day, my talents earn me a living month by month, the health of my family makes me free to fulfil my dream season by season, the unforgettable sweet memory accumulated year by year. Sorry I don't bother much about the Circle of Concern. So I won't blame on others for their stubborn attitude or their indecent living because I can't change them. One is responsible for oneself and holds one's accountability to God.

This dreadful stage in postdivorce (I claim myself) can positively free my latent talent because of the necessity to earn a living for me & for my kids. This failing marriage also urges me to dig into my inner most self deeper to understand why it fails (not to blame my ex-spouse nor myself). To learn & to earn. IT IS A REAL TRAGEDY IF I DON'T LEARN.

In the learning process, the message of "love is really a verb" hit me a lot. Love = respect+care+listen+support unconditionally. Do I learn & act it out, don't I?