Loving yourself

Cherishing in mind, it might be a tragedy that you and your partner could not (for whatever the reason) walk hand-in-hand throughout your life journey. But it is never the end to YOU... Upon separation and/or divorce, we are sole (be our real soul 活出自我的風采) again.

Yes, men are from Mars, women are from Venus and our children are from Heaven.
Yes, children is our assets and our commitment, too. But I'm tired and dried out and burnt out. Who is going to care me! Yes a dying Me.

Parenting is very challenging even when there is marital support, let alone single parenting. Custodial parents face the challenges and demands of childrearing without any or minimal support. Relief from the daily routine of parenting is near none. What happens to me when my partner withdraws his/her commitment. Well, only by loving yourself, you will revive and regenerate more and more energy.... and finally have enjoy your rewards -- your dream, your beloved kids, your right partner when you start over...No one knows about what the future will be, only God. Proverb 16:1 "The plans of the heart belong to man. But the answer of the tongue is from the Lord."

Upon separation and/or divorce, we are sole (be our real soul 活出自我的風采) again. Beyond we are also single parent who takes the parenting responsibility or commitment assigned for two intimate partners in marriage. OOh, my head grows big, my heart beats fast, my pulse jumps high, my limbs shake vigorously.... but my power drips away silently.

My simple conviction:- love yourself, do what you want and desire and dream, follow rhythm in your mind, in your heart.... Commit your works to the Lord and your plans will be established. No one will know how to love you, but yourself. Never expect anyone - don't rush and plunge yourself into another relationship to fill up the emptiness in your heart, in your mind, in your soul, only YOU. So just do whatever strikes you most. Bold enough to try, to experience and to taste ...

To me, reading and writing is one of my ways out of the tantrums. This is the asset God has endorsed to me.
I'd like to share more in the upcoming inaugural SPA e-newsletter. Do pray for me... that I can get the support, both in term of time, effort and finance (I have to earn a living for three - two lovely angels... I must work hard and wisely.) But my deep passion in voicing out the needs amongst these single parents urges me to work a step further and further....

Do send me a note to support .... a responding e-mail to spa23feb05@yahoo.com.hk which counts lots to me.

the stuff in my heart

當一切「看似實在」又本屬「自己」的樓房、金錢、工作、婚姻、名譽 … 如無根的浮萍隨風飄逝,了無痕跡。夢醒了,更覺只是南柯一夢。當失去一切後,我反學會了珍惜和感恩, 更學會了分享和分擔。失婚後, 我明白同路中人的孤寂、需要、困難和希望。怎樣如何重拾快樂; 擁抱快樂; 增添快樂; 擺脫悲傷; 抖擻精神… 開始人生的另一個階段, 追求更崇高的理想: 以我筆寫我口, 從自己的悲劇解脫出來, 化為對人類 — 特別是對單親家庭的同情,並可以透過筆墨互相扶持; 互相砥礪; 勉勵行善。

我討厭別人總把離家出走的街童, 無心向學的學生簡單地標榜為單親家庭的副產品。我這個「失婚」人看了總不是味道。更重要的是我這個「快樂」人正要憑著自己的經歷、經驗分享分擔; 如何將內心的痛苦、寂寞、失望、無奈化為盼望、信心、勇氣、謙虛、堅忍、寬容、自制…把自己的悲傷昇華,轉化成正面的積極力量。

我希望為這些單親家庭父母提供一個心靈平台(Single Parent Alliance, 簡稱 “SPA”), 透過連繫 (internet) 我們可以彼此互相扶持; 互相砥礪; 勉勵行善。如同沐浴(SPA)後洗滌心坎內的污垢(悲觀的情緒); 也扭轉了外人對我們錯誤的、負面的感覺, 我們的孩子也是充滿自信、積極、有目標、有鬥志、勇敢的未來社會棟樑! 願有志者,志竟成! Amen!

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Being a single parent for two years, I strive because I grasp my support (planned or spontaneous). That's why I understand how vital support means to us.
So please show your support to SPA by sending an email to me:- spa23feb05@yahoo.com.hk for membership registration. Tentatively planning, all precious SPA members (by subscription) will be receiving a bi-monthly e-newsletter about whatever insights on SINGLE PARENTING ALLIANCE. Hopefully, the inaugural issue will be issued in March. Though being single dad or single mom may not be our choice, yet to be inspired by SPA is definitely our choice. Join US.

Moreover, if you want to share more and more just feel free to jot me something either by giving comments or send me an email for giving me advice...

Your support and advice are very very much needed!

Mission

Mission:-

• an alliance among the single parents (both genders) spiritually for emotional support; to provide a care-free platform for all single parents (both genders) to inspire, to care, to share...the emotions, the feelings, the daily joy/despair in work, at home, with the kids, the dreams with each other.
• Cherishing a simple conviction: - Psalm 82:3-4 "Vindicate the weak and fatherless/motherless; Do justice to the afflicted and destitute. Rescue the weak and needy; Deliver them out of the hand of the wicked."
• we feel supported, encouraged and cared with each other and inspire others.

Goal:-

• to reach out the educated and executive single parents who have the passion in our next generations.
• to form a league for carrying out more systematic and tailor-made programmes (support group, daily problem shooter, related books review, seminars on single parenting....)
• to publicize kids from single parenting families are spiritually healthy, physically fit and emotionally strong provided with appropriate parenting and unconditional love. Kids from broken families (I hate this label, come on, more awesome alternative are most welcomed) are strong, caring, well-disciplined and loving and not necessarily fall astray or become juvenile delinquents. Please don't label them, in return, give them care and love.

Vision:-

• The members multiple to 100 in a year and grow. God leads us.
• We reap what we sow. Our dream, our kids, our relationship, our purpose of life...will all be elaborated with faith and dignity.